Feb 18, 2023

How can we know if we have a healthy relationship?

 


1. Go to bed at the same time.  According to research, this is part of the secret formula for a good relationship.  This is due to the fact that it can get you both into the same daily pattern and provide you with uninterrupted time together to focus on each other.  Aside from sleeping at the same time, couples who get a good night's sleep are happier together.  Pillow chat has also been proved to be quite beneficial for maintaining a happy and healthy relationship. 

 2. Communicate  Communication is essential in any relationship; without it, you'll never know what your spouse is thinking or feeling.  Discuss everything with them, even the minor details, to ensure that you're constantly on the same page. 

 3. Show them your appreciation  Your partner is an important person who deserves to be recognized.  Make it a habit to tell them how much you appreciate them and to prove it by doing things like cooking dinner for them or doing the dishes.  Let them know how much you appreciate them, and they will thank you.  4. Keep Things Interesting  Keeping up with the daily grind of work and children can lead to couples falling into the same old rut.  Boredom can exacerbate unhappiness in a relationship.  For example, researchers discovered that couples who reported feeling bored in their seventh year of marriage were more likely to have marital unhappiness nine years later.  So, what are some things you can do to keep the romance going in the long run?  Make time for each other; plan dates or set aside time each week to focus on each other. Take a lesson or try a new hobby that you can both enjoy together. Break free from the same old routine. Look for methods to surprise each other and spend time apart from time to time. Turn off all electronic gadgets and spend time focusing solely on one another. Make time for intimacy. 

5. Let Go  One of the primary issues with self-sabotage is that we act in the present as if the circumstance is the same as it was in the past.  It could be from childhood or from previous adult relationships.  Learning to say, "That was then, this is now," will help you make judgments based on the present rather than reacting rashly to what happened in the past.  

6. Sign of a One-Sided Relationship: Being the one who has to apologize  Following a disagreement or quarrel, the other person rarely reaches out to accept responsibility for their conduct or make amends for the pain they have caused.  Instead, you are frequently the one who apologizes in order to move on from the problem.  

7. Passive-Aggressive Behavior  One-sided relationships may also be distinguished by deliberate activities intended to burden one partner with responsibilities that the other does not wish to bear.  One example is a situation known as "weaponized ineptitude," in which one partner pretends to be unable to execute fundamental chores.  They shift the burden of responsibility onto their partner in this way.  It is a type of passive-aggressive behavior that can lead to one-sided partnerships.  

8. Force his natural male instincts to work for your relationship instead of against it.  Basically, this formula does one thing. It triggers his desire to be needed.  Imagine his drive to be needed is like a river. It’s constantly flowing.  And like a river, it’s always going to flow down the path of least resistance.  Letting him meet your needs opens a new path.  An outlet. Water will naturally flow into that new opening.  If you don’t have these openings in your relationship, it’s like a large dam has been erected. Picture one of those huge dams that holds back a massive river.  Imagine the amount of pressure that builds up behind that dam. That’s what it’s like when you don’t open up outlets for his drive to be needed.  It’s the top reason men have affairs (even men who are still in love with their partner). Some woman comes along and fulfills his need to feel important, significant, and capable.  That other woman has created an outlet for the pressure building up behind the dam.  It doesn’t take long for that outlet to become a new river, a new channel. And then it becomes emotionally painful for him to shut it off. Close it down. And ignore that opening.

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