Privacy and secret, are two important words that have a very key role in your life. Privacy is a circle that is defined or set by you yourself and society at the same time. There are many things in your life that you have to tell other people and on the other hand, there are some things that you must never tell somebody else at any cost. That is why setting these limits is a very important task. And the other thing is that a person’s privacy is set by himself. And this is compulsory to keep this private. Privacy is important because it saves you from many useless distractions.
Benefits of privacy
It saves you from the biggest fear, the fear of being judged. And you know how important this is to overcome this fear. Because whenever you make a decision to start hustling to achieve something, the biggest fear and challenge you have to face is how will you face people. People start making fun of and demoralizing you with their negative compliments. This outer negativity demotivates you. But when you start in solitude and keep your goals and hustle secret from people, you don’t have to face this fear because people are unaware of what you are doing. You just have to tell them when you are done.
Secondly, the one thing is your dark secrets that you must have to keep private. What happens is that you tell your dark secrets to your very close friends (that you think are sincere to you). At that moment you don’t even realize what will be the results if your trusted person tells this to someone other. But you don’t think about this at that moment. You realize this when your secret is leaked out. You need to understand that a secret doesn’t remain secret once it is shared with someone. Your best friend is the best friend of someone other. It doesn’t mean your friends are fake or dishonest. But the thing is that some things are to keep private from everyone.
One other benefit you get when you start keeping things private from others is that you are saved from the hurdles. All those hurdles that people set on your way to success can be prevented by keeping your destination and journey private. Because you know when negative people see other people’s progress, they start creating hurdles on their way because they can’t see people winning. And when you keep your hustle secret, these sorts of people don’t get a chance to create hurdles on your way. You keep yourself away from all this useless negativity.
Now after discussing the importance of privacy, we will discuss the things that you just need to keep private from people. You should not tell about these things to anyone. Some things can be shared with some people, and some things can never be shared with anyone. So you also have to learn the difference between these things. Because about some things, you need to share them with other people. And some things can never be shared with anybody.
These are some important things that you need to keep private always.
1- Your Goals & Plans
The very first thing that you need to keep private is your big plans and goals. This seems to be a big question why should a person have to keep his goals and plans personally. He must tell other people what he is trying to achieve in the next few years. But there are very strong reasons to keep all this stuff private.
The very first reason has also been discussed before. When you tell your goals and plans to other people, people start giving you negative vibes. They start demotivating you and highlight the useless flaws in your plans. Also, they demoralize you by telling you that you can never achieve your goal. They assure you what you are trying to do is impossible. Simply they use their every trick to betray you and make you quit. So in the end the result that is derived is that you need to keep your goals private.
And one thing is that when you try to achieve something extraordinary and exceptional, and tell this to people, in the result you get criticism. Because don’t want to see a change. People are happy in their situations and don’t want to achieve any progress. They want to stay in their heirs’ position and also want other people to stay within that limited boundary. That is why they criticize every person that tries to achieve something exceptional and make himself groomed.
So to save yourself from all this negativity, you have to keep your plans private. There is no need to share with other people. Once you have achieved that goal, your goals will themselves tell to other people. As there is a famous saying “keep your hustle private and let your success make the noise”.
2- Money in Your Bank
The second thing that you need to keep secret is your income or savings in your bank. There has a number of reasons that will make you keep this secret. The very first reason is that people get jealous when they find your bank amount more than theirs. And after knowing this, negative people want to snatch this from you by hook or by crook. You start getting threats. All these threats are like hanging swords for you. These are just minor reasons for you to keep your money in the bank secret. But there are some security issues also that are the strong reasons to keep your money secret.
When you have more money than other people in your bank account, then you will be supposed to pay for the party dinners. People will always expect you to pay for them. And they will declare you a boastful and prideful person. They will feel that you are bragging about your money. And when you find your bank savings less than others, you will get an element of demotivation. This will add to your mind that you have to make that money at any cost. So a chance builds that you can use negative sources to make money.
So the only solution to all these problems is to keep your bank amounts secret. Because people will be unaware of your assets. They must be in a doubt about your money. And on the other hand, you can work silently without any distractions. You can tell people when you are done and have achieved very just like the richest persons in the world. So, the second thing to keep private for you is your money in the bank.
3- Your Dark Secrets
This point is also of prime importance. We have discussed this before in the introduction. But in this step, we are going to discuss this step in complete detail. Your dark secrets are the most important elements that must need to be kept private. This is due to several reasons. The very first thing is that your secret is secret till it is limited to you. If you share it with someone else, it is no longer secret. Now every time you have a hanging sword what will happen if your trusted person shares this with someone else. This is going to give you serious damage.
You have to understand one thing at this step your relationship with someone doesn’t remain the same all the time. Sometimes, when you are on top of your emotions, you don’t feel any hesitation in sharing your secrets with a person. But after some years, your bond starts getting weaker. Now When this bond no longer exists, your secrets are no longer safe with that person. And the peak of emotions, when you tell your secret to a person, the same peak of emotion comes to that person when he leaks all your secrets. It doesn’t matter what emotion that emotion is. It can be anger, excitement, fun or sad, etc.
These are not books’ words. This happens in real life. So what you have to do is to keep control over your emotions. Because it is also a famous saying that any decision made in a state of emotion is very dangerous. So keep your dark secrets limited to yourself.
4- Your Life Partner’s Secrets
Your love life is also a very crucial thing that you need to keep private. This is due to numerous reasons. The very first reason is that this keeps your love life pure. You don’t do something just for the sake of attention or fame. You remain sincere to your partner and keep him/her away from people. Also, one other benefit is that you don’t need other people’s opinions or approval to choose your life partner. And you believe that your life partner is not for an exhibition but yourself purely. There is nothing unreal in your relationship. Your relationship is based on pure love and sincerity.
And the one other very strong reason is that you stay away from the negative people. Because a bitter reality is that it doesn’t matter how ideal your life partner is, some negative people still must not be happy with this. They will try their best to break your relationship. These sort of negative people will try their best to impose their opinions on you. They will inject some negative insecurities into your mind. These negative vibes that had entered your subconscious mind, will make you feel that your life partner is not right. This is another reason to keep your love life secret.
And one benefit that you get is that it becomes easier for you to break up when such a situation arises. You don’t have to think again and again about this. Because you have kept that relationship private and now you can break it secretly.
These are just a few reasons which will make you keep your partner’s life secret. Several other reasons will give you rigid causes to keep your love life private.
5- Your Weakness
Your weaknesses are the most important things that you need to keep secret. There is no need to explain the reasons behind this point. You know when you tell your weaknesses to a person, you are cutting your own foot. You are telling people where to attack you. People are always in search of your weak points. And when you yourself tell about your all weaknesses, you are just inviting people to harm you. Seemingly, you will sense comfort after sharing your weaknesses with a person. But this short time relief is followed by an unending danger. You understand when a lot of damage has been done.
You have to understand that you have to hide your insecurities and defects hidden from people. There is no need to tell your weak sides to someone even in front of your most trusted person. If we explore this properly, we come to know a couple of things. Because negative people are always in search of a chance to attack you and find a point where to attack you. But when you reveal your weakness easily, the time they had wasted in searching out your weaknesses is saved. And now it becomes easier for them to harm you.
Also, you can overcome your shortcomings when you work on them privately. When people are aware of your shortcomings then even after removing them, people don’t believe you. They judge you by your weaknesses ignoring all your strong points. These shortcomings are permanently attached to your personality. Now you can remove them from your personality but not from people’s minds. So keep your weaknesses private and work in silence to overcome them.
6- Bragging About Your Success
Bragging about your own success is a very dark thing. There is a number of problems that start taking place when you Bragg on your success. What actually happens is you work very silently and dream about your life after you get success. These are just sparks that start adding up in you. And when you get success, you become out of control. All the success you have got forces you to preach it. But actually, as we mentioned earlier, there is no need to orate your success. You just have to hustle properly. Success will itself come out of the box and tell people about itself.
But when you yourself Bragg on your success, you lose your respect. People start thinking negatively about you. You also must have observed many people around you who praise themselves. These people are just like fools. Because a person who praises himself is a fool. Similarly, when you Bragg about your success people not only avoid you but also will not believe you. So it makes a very much difference. You can avoid all this by keeping your success private.
And the other drawback is that Bragging about your success stops the way of upcoming success. When you Bragg about your success, you feel that you have worked enough and achieved enough. So you stop hustling. And ultimately when you stop hustling, you are inviting failure. This is another very dangerous drawback. So keep your success private. Let your success make the noise itself.
7- Act of Kindness & Good Deeds
This is a plus point. The one most important thing that you have to keep secret is your act of kindness and good deeds. This will help you keep real. And a humble person is the real one. Because when you show off good deeds, it becomes unreal. This seems like you are doing this as a publicity stunt. People also start assuming negatively about you. Because they will have a mindset about you that you are a show-off sort of person. If you really want to be a humble person, you have to keep these types of acts secret. And it’s not about other people’s perceptions. By doing this you are actually not true to yourself. If you want true happiness, try to do good things in secret.
You should do this just for your own relief, not for the praise of people. When you do this as a publicity stunt, this doesn’t increase your respect but people start hating you. Because people only love down-to-earth sort of person. When you do this for attention, you will not feel happy. God only gets happy from you when you do something just for him.
So you have to do good deeds and help other people but keep this secret. You can just tell this to some people just to make them also do this. Not to make them appreciate you. Keep your good deeds private.
culled: businesstall.com
By Arslan Bhatti
